The story is that the new Tesla destination stations, all the ones installed in the last 6 months or so, require a 10+ second pause between Vehicle Present and Vehicle Ready To Charge. I think Electric Terry was saying there's an outer limit, but I don't recall what it is.
Vehicle Present is represented by a diode and a 2.7k resistor from Pilot to Ground. Vehicle Ready To Charge is represented by an additional 1.3k in parallel to the first. (There's also a third state that requires ventilation for lead acid batteres, which is irrelevant to us.)
Up until now a lot of EVs have implemented J-inlet and T-inlet signalling by simply going straight to Vehicle Ready To Charge, a simple diode and resistor. Cheap and simple.
I've implemented a manual delay between the states this by adding a switch with a rubber cover and a pair of 2.7k resistors that are brought in in parallel to the first 2.7k resistor and I've tested it at the only station I know of that requires the delay. I normally have the switch in Ready To Charge (on), but if that fails, I unplug, switch to off (Vehicle Present), count eleven seconds in my head ("it goes to eleven!", haha), and switch to Ready To Charge.
Mechanically, I potted the whole thing, in a little plastic container along with a 1/4 bolt for secure mounting. I'll post a picture of one of my incarnations, and I assume the above is enough for you to google the schematics yourself. I think the one from evtv is the clearest as to what's going on.
In my photo you'll see the connector, which matches the one on my T-inlet. If your T-inlet doesn't have that connector, my little brick won't work for you. I imagine the various vendors who make the T-inlets will be integrating a switch or a timer.
I'm not aware of any J1772 that require the delay, though honoring the two states is part of the protocol. Let me know if you know of any.