hi Bonkers!
Congrats with your decision! I've owned a VFR1200(non-DCT) prior to my '15 DS for two years and it's a great bike, for touring. Having two little girls myself, i've found touring impossible nowadays... too bad. For the future however...
I've found the VFR quite thirsty, and not fun to drive around city speeds (but DCT will mask that i guess)
It's a relatively heavy bike at slow speeds and i'm not that tall. Maybe it's the combination. The VFRfun started when leaving the city. I don't know how many time you will spend in London traffic, but during that time, the Zero is a better option, by far. Light, quick, small, nimble compared to the VFR. The Zero downside is the lack of wind protection at highway speeds. Fit & finish of the Zero are good, but not Honda-good.
I drive my DS Holland-style, which means lots of rain and lots of wind for the last 4 weeks. No problemo at all.
The big compromises you are talking about are not so big. I did not ran into them once. Considering the time you've spend here on the forum, you know what you are buying.
The VFR is fantastic, but i love my DS. And i love the fact that i'v become less dependent from oil-based idiots. But that's personal.
Commuter greetings from the Amsterdam area. And show us a DSP picture please!